Any relationship benefits from a healthy dose of communication. However, when a relationship goes south, there’s a good chance you want nothing to do with that person. For marriages, bad communication and emotional disconnect are warning signs. You might be looking to divorce as an option, but you’re worried about how it will affect your child.
As summer comes to a close, parents are hurrying to finish up last minute shopping for school supplies, clothes and new sneakers. The added stress doesn’t always mix well with tension between the parents. Despite your differences and possible desire to separate, it’s important to come up with a good co-parenting plan for the sake of the child.
Open communication prevents issues down the road
Couples oftentimes avoid communication when they don’t want to start another fight. This is fair. However, children can sense when there’s a disconnect. They need your equal involvement and support. If you and your spouse aren’t communicating well about the child’s school obligations, you’re not setting them up for success.
Consider limiting conversations with the other parent. Have the topic be solely based on the child, not about your lives or your relationship. It’s hard at first, especially when the blood is boiling. But remember that despite differences, you have one thing in common: You both want what’s best for your child. For example, keep the topics focused, such as:
- Clarifying dates, such as teacher conferences and extracurricular activities
- Talking about the child’s homework, projects and deadlines
- Discussing your child’s health and doctor appointments
- Touching on concerns about your child’s feelings
Keeping it about the child is your best option when it comes to surviving the school year. Make sure they are not around when you discuss matters of your relationship. Seeing a therapist, counselor or family law attorney can be done at any time. In the end, it’s just important that conflicts in your own personal lives don’t seep into the child’s. As always, continue to support your child throughout the process.